"i myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions."
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We never say that all men deserve to feel beautiful. We never say that each man is beautiful in his own way. We don’t have huge campaigns aimed at young boys trying to convince them that they’re attractive, probably because we very rarely correlate a man’s worth with his appearance. The problem is that a woman’s value in this world is still very much attached to her appearance, and telling her that she should or deserves to feel beautiful does more to promote that than negate it. Telling women that they “deserve” to feel pretty plays right in to the idea that prettiness should be important to them. And having books and movies aimed at young women where every female protagonist turns out to be beautiful (whereas many of the antagonists are described in much less flattering terms) reinforces the message that beauty has some kind of morality attached to it, and that all heroines are somehow pretty.

I become a
garden
beneath you;

I never
thought I
could see

this body
as anything
but soil.

Emma Blekeri always saw myself as the thing beside the beauty
(via aestheticintrovert)

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lizbreenwrites:

A friend of mine and fellow writer asked me to mail her daughter a handwritten note to remind her that she is beautiful. Her birthday is next week, and she is having a hard time in middle school. For some reason, this letter felt very, very important, and I took it seriously. Here is what I wrote to her:

I am going to tell you something I’ve never told anyone.

When I was in high school (which was only 10 years ago, don’t worry), I was never ever asked to a dance by a boy. All my friends were getting invitations, but I wasn’t, and though I never said a word about it to anyone, it hurt me very much. I couldn’t understand it 

Then, one day I was walking through the mall parking lot. I saw a group of boys I went to school with who I didn’t really know all that well, so I crossed behind some cars so they wouldn’t see me walking. I overheard them talking, though, and they were talking about me. One boy said, “I think I’m going to ask Liz Breen to formal.” Another boy said, “Don’t do that, man. She’s too smart.”

So that was my problem? I was too smart? That was just about the most idiotic thing I ever heard, and I couldn’t help but cry about it. I hoped that the boy wouldn’t listen to his friend and ask me to the dance anyways, but he didn’t. I pretended I was sick and stayed home. 

Though I let that boy win in the sense that I didn’t go to formal that year, I never stopped living up to my potential; I never stopped being smart because someone told me it wasn’t cool. And right now, I’m writing you this note from my office, where I have my dream job as a television producer, and that boy, the one who said I was too smart, was just fired for stealing from the gas station where he worked. I’m not telling you this story to brag, but to tell you that your peers are morons. It’s true. And many of them will continue to be morons for the rest of their lives.

Confidence is beauty. Intelligence is beauty. Independence is beauty. Eccentricity is beauty. If you can remember that, in a few years, you’ll be in an environment where people know these things to be true, and you will feel every inch as beautiful as you know you are now.

Keep being yourself; know that not every 14-year-old knows what you know. All the best moments in your life are yet to happen.

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aseaofquotes:

Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha

aseaofquotes:

Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha

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I look to her in the simplest, smallest moments - when she reads or drinks coffee or brushes her teeth and I am breathless - knowing it does not take a million dollar telescope to witness the crushing beauty of the universe.

Beau Taplin || T E L E S C O P E S (via afadthatlastsforever)

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the-quiet-is-violent:

To This Day by Shane Koyzcan

the-quiet-is-violent:

To This Day by Shane Koyzcan

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dynastylnoire:

I love my skin!

OMG THIS IS SO GREAT!

(Source: arthaemisia, via thedailylaughs)

It’s always surprising to me how many young women think they have to be perfect. I rarely meet a young man who doesn’t think he already is.

 Hillary Clinton speaking at Simmons Leadership Conference (via femininefreak)

SHOTS FIRED.

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browngirlblues:

her-name-is-wena:

browngirlblues:

I hate it when men make unsolicited comments about a woman’s body. Like “she’s got a nice shape but she needs to tighten up her stomach”

How about you tighten up your lips and never speak again you ignorant shit.

Wow maybe you need to accept constructive criticism jesus christ.

Men telling me (or any other woman) what I need to do for them to find me sexually attractive is not constructive criticism.

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sidnugget:

I was starting to really like my body then I woke up one day and I realized how gross my body was well back to the drawing board am I right ladies

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nortonism:

The thing about this is that sculptures like these in art history were for the male gaze. Photoshop a phone to it and suddenly she’s seen as vain and conceited. That’s why I’m 100% for selfie culture because apparently men can gawk at women but when we realize how beautiful we are we’re suddenly full of ourselves…

nortonism:

The thing about this is that sculptures like these in art history were for the male gaze. Photoshop a phone to it and suddenly she’s seen as vain and conceited. That’s why I’m 100% for selfie culture because apparently men can gawk at women but when we realize how beautiful we are we’re suddenly full of ourselves…

(Source: nevver, via cervicks-deactivated20141013)